I slept with another man the night before my wedding — and still got married

‘I told my friends two days before the wedding how I felt, and they said I needed to call it off,’ Amy Holyoake recalls. But the 31-year-old didn’t end her engagement. Instead, she cheated on her fiancé the night before she walked down the aisle.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, their marriage was short lived. Amy then dumped her new husband on their honeymoon. Amy, from Leeds, had been with her partner for six years, before the pair got engaged in January 2019, but she’d long been having doubts.

‘[Before we got married] I was feeling really drained and all over the place,’ she says. ‘I didn’t feel listened to. As soon as I set a date for the wedding day, I regretted it instantly.

‘A lot of my friends said I should’ve left a while ago. When I’m on my own I feel a lot stronger, whereas in that relationship I felt a lot weaker,’ she adds.

‘I felt small when I was around him.’

Her uncertainty over her long-term relationship was then exacerbated when she began messaging a musician on TikTok a mere two months before her wedding day.

‘I was just scrolling after a hard day and really enjoyed his music. It was so calming,’ Amy explains.

‘I just messaged him when he was on live and let him know his music was wonderful. He messaged back and I told him I was getting married.

‘I tried to just be friends with him but my feelings were way too strong. We had really deep, intelligent conversations that I hadn’t had for a long time.’

But the turning point for Amy came when she attended one of the musician’s gigs.

‘That’s when I knew I’d fallen for him completely,’ she says.

Two days before her wedding, which was planned for August 4, Amy revealed her true feelings for her emotional fling to her friends, and they told her to cancel the big day.

‘I said “I can’t because everyone has put so much money into this wedding”. Everyone was so excited, I couldn’t let everyone down,’ she explains.

Then, the bride-to-be took it one step further.

‘The night before the wedding day I messaged [the musician] and he came over and we ended up sleeping together,’ she recalls.

‘He left at about 5am in the morning. There was a massive amount of guilt and confusion.

‘I never thought that was going to be me. That whole day was really emotional. I didn’t know what to do.’

Her indecisiveness meant she did end up walking down the aisle and saying ‘I do’ to her fiance that day, with him none-the-wiser.

But regret soon crept in, and two days later on their honeymoon in Scarborough, Amy tried to end things.

‘I tried to break up with him, he actually said he felt the same way,’ she says.

‘It just felt like a long friendship and we’d lost our way. But he didn’t want to get divorced, he wanted to work on it.’

This was short-lived and once the pair got home, Amy admitted she was in love with someone else.

‘I told him I’d slept with someone else and fallen for him,’ she says. ‘My husband said he didn’t want me in the house.

‘He was really upset. He wanted to get back with me, but I told him he deserved so much better.

‘We weren’t happy together. My fiance was a perfectly fine person, I just wasn’t in love with him. There were no feelings of passion.’

Now officially separated from her husband, Amy admits she’s ‘100% happier’ now she’s dating her musician boyfriend — and regrets ever going through with the wedding day.

‘I would say to any other woman if you have any doubts at all, don’t go through with it,’ the divorcee says.

‘I feel over the moon. I could’ve done it in a better way. I didn’t intend for this to happen.

‘I don’t think I do regret [what happened the night before the wedding], which sounds horrible. I feel like if that didn’t happen, it might never have ended.’

Amy’s ex-husband didn’t wish to comment.

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